How can you tell if you’re a “good” or “bad” person? Well…
There is a term in Psychology that references one of the four irrational beliefs we tend to hold, called “global evaluation of human worth”. This term references the judgments we make about ourselves and others, often complete with overgeneralizations. We tend to see people as capable of being rated, or perceived, as “good” and “bad”. What we fail to realize is that people are neither “good” nor “bad”. We may do things or behave in ways that can be perceived as good or bad, but we are not wholly and definitively “good” or “bad” human beings.
But wait, how does this answer the question? The short response is simply this: you are neither a good nor bad person.
This is crucial to understand, as it can help us to accept our faux-pas and to forgive ourselves and others when necessary. Human beings are very complex. We, and the situations in which we find ourselves are not always concrete and fixed. When we accept and understand that we are complex, that we are human, and that we are not fixed as “good” or “bad” people, we reduce judgments and allow for wellness to strengthen. When we accept ourselves as we are, we open up more space for self-care and enrichment.
Things are not always black and white. Especially people. We are a world of possibilities, mistakes, fears, hopes, creations, and more. It’s important that we reframe the way we think about ourselves, others, and the situations we are part of. The only things consistent and definite about us and our situations are that they exist. We tie meaning to these things, classifying them as “good” and “bad” or “right” and “wrong”, and sometimes we do so in a way that limits our perspective.
Tip: Add to your wellness this week by reframing the way you think about yourself, a friend, or a situation in your life. Accept the individual or circumstance as it is (Example: “I accept the fact that I made a mistake. This doesn’t make me a bad person. I simply made a mistake, and will move forward accordingly”).
I leave you with one of my favorite quotes, to summarize these thoughts and leave you thinking:
“There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so” – William Shakespeare (Hamlet)
All the best,